I had an exchange of emails with the coordinator from work. I will not be going back. I hope things change for the department as it is a good team but time will tell. At least by doing what I did I have helped get the issues out into the open and those that remain now have people they can go to if things start to slide.
So time to move on. Feelings are still raw and a manager from one of the wards rang me earlier to say she was sorry to hear I had left. That was unexpected and made me feel sad but good!
I had lunch with a friend today and her problems with her children make mine and many others' fade into nothing. How sad when you love your kids but don't want to be with them because they call you every foul name under the sun and accuse you of being a bad parent because you remarried. Among other things.
Orange soy pork for dinner so I'd better go and get the necessaries. There is a big new supermarket near here but of course the car took its usual way home from lunch and I ended up on the wrong side of the railway line so will have to head back out. Must remember NOT to turn off at my usual spot so I only have to make one trip!
Wednesday, 18 November 2009
Thursday, 12 November 2009
One step at a time
I did sleep quite well last night and woke at 7. Got up at 7.30 when the alarm went off (had promised Three I'd wake him for TAFE) and went for a lovely walk down to the beach. My mind was still going at a million miles an hour but the walk helped.
Breakfast, shower and then off to Myer for a Lancome facial. Ah, bliss. Bought some lovely new skin products and some makeup and got a gift pack with lippy and mascara and all sorts of goodies. I have never been confident with makeup but the lovely ladies at Myer Lancome have shown me short cuts and now I don't go out without some colour on my face and have learned to apply it for different occasions. Finally!!!
When I got home there was an email from the person who had dealt with most of yesterday's fallout. I replied with how I was feeling and how I had been feeling at work for the past several months. He rang me and we had a good chat about things. He encouraged me not to make any monumental decisions just yet and to wait until I feel a little less fragile over all this. It really has rocked me to my core. He will be talking to my boss (ex boss, I suppose) on Monday and everything will depend on how the hospital chooses to handle the situation.
So for now I shall try and relax and get mentally better again. The sad thing about all this? There are no winners. I know that my boss will be devastated because what she has done has been done with good intentions but that doesn't make it right - especially when she has been told by several people (at least a couple with far more experience than she) that there is an issue and refused to address it.
OK. Enough for now. I could go on and on but that won't help me and won't change things.
I allow myself to lick my wounds but not to dwell.
Breakfast, shower and then off to Myer for a Lancome facial. Ah, bliss. Bought some lovely new skin products and some makeup and got a gift pack with lippy and mascara and all sorts of goodies. I have never been confident with makeup but the lovely ladies at Myer Lancome have shown me short cuts and now I don't go out without some colour on my face and have learned to apply it for different occasions. Finally!!!
When I got home there was an email from the person who had dealt with most of yesterday's fallout. I replied with how I was feeling and how I had been feeling at work for the past several months. He rang me and we had a good chat about things. He encouraged me not to make any monumental decisions just yet and to wait until I feel a little less fragile over all this. It really has rocked me to my core. He will be talking to my boss (ex boss, I suppose) on Monday and everything will depend on how the hospital chooses to handle the situation.
So for now I shall try and relax and get mentally better again. The sad thing about all this? There are no winners. I know that my boss will be devastated because what she has done has been done with good intentions but that doesn't make it right - especially when she has been told by several people (at least a couple with far more experience than she) that there is an issue and refused to address it.
OK. Enough for now. I could go on and on but that won't help me and won't change things.
I allow myself to lick my wounds but not to dwell.
Wednesday, 11 November 2009
worse and then better
Today was godawful.
I have been given a fortnight off on stress leave. I have spoken at great length to our HR department about my boss. I have come to realise that as a department we have been subjected to behaviour which is tantamount to bullying.
I am relieved about this because I really believed that I was the one with the problem and that I was somehow tainting my colleagues.
I never thought of myself as a victim but it's good to know it wasn't my fault and that nothing I could have done would have made a difference.
The organisation has done the right thing by me and for this I am grateful. I hope that the two colleagues who remain in that department will also have the right thing done by them. It would be terrible to think that the past two days have been for naught.
Himself is in Sydney and I'm hoping that I will have a good night's sleep tonight.
I have been given a fortnight off on stress leave. I have spoken at great length to our HR department about my boss. I have come to realise that as a department we have been subjected to behaviour which is tantamount to bullying.
I am relieved about this because I really believed that I was the one with the problem and that I was somehow tainting my colleagues.
I never thought of myself as a victim but it's good to know it wasn't my fault and that nothing I could have done would have made a difference.
The organisation has done the right thing by me and for this I am grateful. I hope that the two colleagues who remain in that department will also have the right thing done by them. It would be terrible to think that the past two days have been for naught.
Himself is in Sydney and I'm hoping that I will have a good night's sleep tonight.
Tuesday, 10 November 2009
blah
Today I quit my job. I finish in 4 weeks. I don't want to leave my place of work but can no longer work in my department for my current manager and she's not likely to be going anywhere soon. I am not the only one to feel like this but I am in a fortunate position in that I can resign and not stress about bills. Yet.
Three has been downloading stuff that he shouldn't (copyright stuff) and Himself got The Email this evening. Not sure what the ramifications will be but you can be sure that Three won't be doing THAT again. I just hope that there is nothing else waiting in the wings to bite us.
My day could get worse but I hope it doesn't.
Three has been downloading stuff that he shouldn't (copyright stuff) and Himself got The Email this evening. Not sure what the ramifications will be but you can be sure that Three won't be doing THAT again. I just hope that there is nothing else waiting in the wings to bite us.
My day could get worse but I hope it doesn't.
Monday, 9 November 2009
HEAT!!
This weekend saw temperatures over 30 (degrees celsius!) with clear blue skies and gentle sea breezes. Bliss.
Himself and I walked down to the beach yesterday morning and then along the beach for a way. My calves have been playing up again (legs, not moo) and it was sooooo good to walk in the sea up to my knees. I'm seeing a physio tomorrow.
Miz S, the reason I have to give up work before getting a dog is that I wouldn't want to leave a pup outside all day when we are at work and couldn't have it inside cos of chewing and the cats. Good reason to retire, though, don't you think?
One's problem is with alcohol. He needs to learn his limits. He recognises this but it isn't always easy.
More hot weather predicted for this week. This house is so much more heat tolerant than the old one. As I write this I am looking out across the river with a lovely breeze coming in the balcony doors.
Dinner won't cook itself though so better get a wriggle on.
Himself and I walked down to the beach yesterday morning and then along the beach for a way. My calves have been playing up again (legs, not moo) and it was sooooo good to walk in the sea up to my knees. I'm seeing a physio tomorrow.
Miz S, the reason I have to give up work before getting a dog is that I wouldn't want to leave a pup outside all day when we are at work and couldn't have it inside cos of chewing and the cats. Good reason to retire, though, don't you think?
One's problem is with alcohol. He needs to learn his limits. He recognises this but it isn't always easy.
More hot weather predicted for this week. This house is so much more heat tolerant than the old one. As I write this I am looking out across the river with a lovely breeze coming in the balcony doors.
Dinner won't cook itself though so better get a wriggle on.
Thursday, 5 November 2009
Slack!
Sheba loves veges. She rubbed her face and purred over this bag of salad. Strange cat.
Not sure why there's a tee on the bench. Probably for the same reason there are golf balls under the couch.
I have been very slack in the updating department. That is mainly due to the fact that I have nothing to say!
As I mentioned in the previous post the boys came over for dinner on Sunday. Two had to leave to get back to an editing job and Three went to catch up with a friend (female probably). Which left One. Who opened his heart to us about some personal issues he's having. Can't really say too much at the moment but it was one of those bitter sweet parental moments. Glad he can talk to us but oy, I feel his pain. He and ebs are ok but he's got some demons he needs to face and deal with. Does it EVER get easier? I doubt it. But I wouldn't have it any other way.
Because of Melbourne Cup Day I have only worked one day this week. Now THAT I could get used to! We are still toying with the idea of me giving up work altogether and one reason is that we would then get a dog. That needs more thought. The work bit not the dog bit!
Tomorrow I have some running around to do and then will get my hair cut and degreyed. Out for dinner with the usual suspects in the evening and then off to see my Dad for his birthday on Saturday. I can't believe that it's been a year since we sent him on that Harley ride. After that I have promised to pop in and see Mrs Teacher. That could be interesting. I haven't really spoken to her since she and Dr Teacher split.
And on that note I think I'll go to bed!
Sunday, 1 November 2009
Sunday arvo
It's been a lovely few days.
I went with Three to pay for his air fare and accomodation for his Bali trip on Friday. He and a mate have coughed up for the other two friends who are going who have to pay rent and things and therefore don't have the readies yet but I know they'll get it back. They are a really good group of friends.
On Friday evening we went to our favourite Vietnamese restaurant with our usual partners in crime and had a great meal and a great time. Home in time to watch the recorded episode of Midsomer Murders. Bliss.
Yesterday we went to the butcher and touched base with the Mermaid. Hopefully she will be out of that damned shop this week. The ex and his new wife have finally agreed to stump up with some cash and take the business over. Couldn't go to a better couple! Their arrogance and belief that they can do no wrong and know soooo much about small business will stand them in good stead to run a struggling business *snigger*!
In the afternoon I went shopping with Sooz. I bought some tops, a new lippy and a popcorn machine. And some new towels.
Today was a spuddling day getting bits and pieces done. Including buying a new chair for Two (and one for me for the sewing room - the cheap stool from Ikea is the pits!). We went to 0fficeworks and found one we liked only to be told they had none in stock. This really makes my blood boil as it happens all the time with that store. I asked if they could see if any other store had any and was told they hadn't. It would take 4 days to get stock from the warehouse (they have stock in the warehouse but none in their stores?) and I would have to pay up front. Normally I wouldn't quibble about that sort of thing but all the 'assistants' bar one were so unhelpful it bordered on rude. The one helpful one was going to ring another store to find out if they had any but was told by the others that there were none available. So we left empty handed. On the way home we decided to drive a bit further and see if there were any other chairs at another branch that we might like (I refused to deal with store #1 cos of their lack of customer service). Lo and behold store #2 had THREE of the chairs we liked (at least). AND they were helpful. And surprised that store #1 hadn't rung to check as they often get those sort of calls. So we have two lovely chairs waiting to be assembled and Himself went back to store #1 to complain and was dealt with by an apologetic duty manager who will have a word with those involved. But I will not go back there again if I can help it.
Roast beef in the oven. Boys on their way over. And only one day of work this week.
All in all a very good weekend.
I went with Three to pay for his air fare and accomodation for his Bali trip on Friday. He and a mate have coughed up for the other two friends who are going who have to pay rent and things and therefore don't have the readies yet but I know they'll get it back. They are a really good group of friends.
On Friday evening we went to our favourite Vietnamese restaurant with our usual partners in crime and had a great meal and a great time. Home in time to watch the recorded episode of Midsomer Murders. Bliss.
Yesterday we went to the butcher and touched base with the Mermaid. Hopefully she will be out of that damned shop this week. The ex and his new wife have finally agreed to stump up with some cash and take the business over. Couldn't go to a better couple! Their arrogance and belief that they can do no wrong and know soooo much about small business will stand them in good stead to run a struggling business *snigger*!
In the afternoon I went shopping with Sooz. I bought some tops, a new lippy and a popcorn machine. And some new towels.
Today was a spuddling day getting bits and pieces done. Including buying a new chair for Two (and one for me for the sewing room - the cheap stool from Ikea is the pits!). We went to 0fficeworks and found one we liked only to be told they had none in stock. This really makes my blood boil as it happens all the time with that store. I asked if they could see if any other store had any and was told they hadn't. It would take 4 days to get stock from the warehouse (they have stock in the warehouse but none in their stores?) and I would have to pay up front. Normally I wouldn't quibble about that sort of thing but all the 'assistants' bar one were so unhelpful it bordered on rude. The one helpful one was going to ring another store to find out if they had any but was told by the others that there were none available. So we left empty handed. On the way home we decided to drive a bit further and see if there were any other chairs at another branch that we might like (I refused to deal with store #1 cos of their lack of customer service). Lo and behold store #2 had THREE of the chairs we liked (at least). AND they were helpful. And surprised that store #1 hadn't rung to check as they often get those sort of calls. So we have two lovely chairs waiting to be assembled and Himself went back to store #1 to complain and was dealt with by an apologetic duty manager who will have a word with those involved. But I will not go back there again if I can help it.
Roast beef in the oven. Boys on their way over. And only one day of work this week.
All in all a very good weekend.
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